Did you know that happiness has its own holiday?
Four years ago, the General Assembly of the United Nations proclaimed March 20 to be the International Day of Happiness.
It’s easy to understand why they see happiness as something to
celebrate: Happy people are healthier; they get sick less often and live
longer. Happy people are more likely to get married and have fulfilling marriages, and they have more friends. They make more money and are more productive at work.
Based on decades of research, it has become clear that happiness is not
just a personal issue; it’s a matter of public health, global economics, and national well-being.
But it doesn’t come easy, as most of us know. Disappointments and
annoyances grab our attention like gnats, and even the good things in
life seem to lose their luster over time. Add to that a crammed schedule
and mounting obligations, and happiness might just seem out of
reach—achievable for other people, perhaps, but not us.
Fortunately, research suggests that happiness is something we can cultivate with practice. The Greater Good Science Center has collected many happiness practices
on our website Greater Good in Action, alongside other research-based
exercises for fostering kindness, connection, and resilience. Below are
11 of those happiness practices, grouped into five broader strategies
for a more fulfilling life.
1. Acknowledge the good
If we don’t feel happy, it’s tempting to
look for things to fix: the job that isn’t prestigious enough, the
apartment that’s too cramped, our partner’s annoying habit. But focusing
on all the negatives isn’t the surest route to feeling better. Instead,
a simple way to start cultivating happiness is by recognizing the good.
In the Three Good Things
exercise, for example, you keep a journal devoted solely to the
positives in your life. Each evening, you write down three things that
went well and add some detail about each, including how they made you
feel. For example, you might recall a heartfelt thank you from a
coworker, a quiet moment drinking tea, or your daughter’s infectious
laughter. Importantly, you also briefly explain why you think each good
thing happened—which focuses your attention on the enduring sources of
goodness that surround you.
A 2005 study
invited participants to do this practice daily for a week, and
afterward they reported feeling happier and less depressed than when
they started. In fact, they maintained their happiness boost six months
later, illustrating how impactful it can be to focus on the good things
in life.
Many of those good things lie just outside our doorstep, and we can practice noticing them on a Savoring Walk.
Here, you take a 20-minute walk and observe the sights, sounds, and
smells you encounter—freshly cut grass, an epic skyscraper, a stranger’s
smile. Each time you notice something positive, take the time to absorb
it and think about why you enjoy it. On your subsequent Savoring Walks,
strike out in different directions to seek new things to admire.
In a study by Fred Bryant of Loyola University Chicago,
participants who took Savoring Walks daily for a week reported greater
increases in happiness than participants who went for walks as usual.
“Making a conscious effort to notice and explicitly acknowledge the
various sources of joy around us can make us happier,” write Bryant and
Joseph Veroff in the book Savoring.
If you have trouble seeing the good that’s already around you, another strategy is to create some. In Creating and Recalling Positive Events, you carve out time for yourself and fill your schedule with enjoyment.
When you have a day free, don’t rush around doing chores; instead, try three different happy activities:
- Something you do alone, such as reading, listening to music, or meditating.
- Something you do with others, such as going out for coffee, riding your bike, or watching a movie.
- Something meaningful, such as volunteering, helping a neighbor in need, or calling a friend who’s struggling.
If your go-to happiness practice has been Netflix and a bowl of ice
cream, this exercise can reconnect you with different sources of
satisfaction. These three activities should offer you a sense of
pleasure, engagement, and meaning, all viable paths to a satisfying life. A 2014 study
found that even psychiatric patients with suicidal thoughts found value
in doing this exercise, reporting more optimism and less hopelessness
afterward.
2. Add happiness through subtraction
Even after we identify the positives in our life, we’re still
prone to adapting to them over time. A good thing repeated brings us
less satisfaction, until it no longer seems to contribute to our
day-to-day mood at all; we take it for granted. That’s why, sometimes,
it’s a good idea to introduce a little deprivation.
In Mental Subtraction of Positive Events,
you call to mind a certain positive event—the birth of a child, a
career achievement, a special trip—and think of all the circumstances
that made it possible. How could things have turned out differently?
Just taking a moment to imagine this alternate reality creates a
favorable comparison, where suddenly our life looks quite good.
In a 2008 study, participants who performed this exercise reported feeling more gratitude and other positive emotions than participants who simply thought about past positive events without imagining their absence. Mental Subtraction seems to jolt us into the insight that the good things in our lives aren’t inevitable; we are, in fact, very lucky.
In a 2008 study, participants who performed this exercise reported feeling more gratitude and other positive emotions than participants who simply thought about past positive events without imagining their absence. Mental Subtraction seems to jolt us into the insight that the good things in our lives aren’t inevitable; we are, in fact, very lucky.
If imagining absence isn’t quite enough for you, what about experiencing it for real? In the Give It Up
practice, you spend a week abstaining from a pleasure in order to
appreciate it more fully. This pleasure should be something that’s
relatively abundant in your life, such as eating chocolate or watching
TV. At the end of the week, when you can finally indulge, pay special
attention to how it feels.
In a 2013 study,
people who gave up chocolate savored it more and experienced a more
positive mood when they finally ate it at the end of the week, compared
with people who ate chocolate as usual. This exercise may not only open
your eyes to a single pleasure (like the miracle of cacao), but make you
more conscious of life’s many other pleasures, too.
3. Find meaning and purpose
Creating and Recalling Positive Events reminds us that pleasure isn’t
the only path to bliss; meaning can also bring us happiness, albeit a
quieter and more reflective kind.
In the Meaningful Photos
practice, you take pictures of things that are meaningful to you and
reflect on them. Over the course of a week, look out for sources of
meaning in your life—family members, favorite spots, childhood
mementos—and capture about nine or ten different images of them. At the
end of the week, spend an hour reflecting on them: What does each photo
represent, and why is it meaningful to you? Jot down some of those
thoughts if it’s helpful.
Amid the chores and routines, life can sometimes feel dull and
mundane. Reigniting our sense of meaning can remind us what’s important,
which boosts our energy and gives us strength to face life’s stresses.
In a 2013 study,
college students who completed this exercise not only boosted their
sense of meaning, but also reported greater positive emotions and life
satisfaction as well.
We can also boost our energy and motivation by fostering a sense of purpose, and the Best Possible Self
exercise is one way to do that. Here, you journal for 15 minutes about
an ideal future in which everything is going as well as possible, from
your family and personal life to your career and health.
In a 2006 study,
participants who wrote about their Best Possible Selves daily for two
weeks reported greater positive emotions afterward, and their mood
continued increasing up to a month later if they kept up the practice.
This exercise allows us to clarify our goals and priorities, painting
a detailed picture of where we want to be. This picture should be
ambitious but realistic so that it motivates us to make changes, rather
than reminding us how imperfect and disappointing our lives are now.
When we reflect on our future this way, we may feel more in control of
our destiny.
4. Use your strengths
Just as we hunt for things to fix in life, we also tend to obsess
over flaws in ourselves; our weaknesses loom large. But what if we put
more time and attention into our strengths and positive attributes?
The Use Your Strengths
exercise invites you to consider your strengths of character—from
creativity and perseverance to kindness and humility—and put them into
practice. Each day for a week, select a strength and make a plan to use
it in a new and different way. You can repeat the same
strength—directing your curiosity toward a work project one day and
toward your partner’s interests the next—or work on different strengths
each day. At the end of the week, synthesize the experience by writing
about what you did, how it made you feel, and what you learned.
In a 2005 study,
participants who engaged in this exercise for a week reported feeling
happier and less depressed, and that happiness boost lasted up to six
months. Use Your Strengths may help us transfer skills between home and
work—applying our professional creativity to our children’s school
assignments or our domestic kindness to our co-workers—and give us a
confidence boost all around.
5. Connect with others
The practices above invite us to turn inward, tinkering with our attitudes and the way we view the world. But decades of science also suggest that turning outward and connecting to the people around us is one of the surest routes to happiness.
As a first step, you can try an adapted version of the Best Possible Self exercise for relationships
to give you insights into what kinds of social connection you desire.
In an ideal life, what would your relationships with your spouse,
family, and friends look like?
One way to feel an immediate boost of connection is through Random Acts of Kindness.
Random Acts of Kindness don’t have to be flashy or extravagant; they
can be as simple as helping a friend with a chore or making breakfast
for your partner. You can also extend your circle of kindness to
strangers and community members, feeding a parking meter or offering a
meal to someone in need.
In a 2005 study,
participants who performed five acts of kindness on one day a week for
six weeks reported increases in happiness. (This didn’t happen when they
spread out their acts of kindness across the week, perhaps because a
single kind act may not feel noteworthy on its own.) Researchers also
suggest varying your acts of kindness over time to keep the practice
fresh and dynamic.
Some of your acts of kindness may involve giving, and the Make Giving Feel Good practice helps ensure that giving does, indeed, bring happiness. Researchers Elizabeth Dunn and Michael Norton,
among others, have found evidence that being kind and generous does
make us happier, but they’ve also found that acts of giving are most
effective when they meet these three criteria:
- It’s a choice: Give because you choose to, not because you feel pressured or obligated to.
- You connect: Giving can be an opportunity to make connections with the people you’re helping, so choose activities where you get to spend time with recipients, like helping a friend move or volunteering at a soup kitchen.
- You see the impact: If you’re donating money, for example, don’t just give and move on. Find out what your money will be used for—like new classroom supplies or a cooking stove.
In a 2011 study,
participants were offered a $10 Starbucks gift card to use in different
ways: They either gave it to someone, gave it to someone and joined
them for a drink, or used it on themselves while drinking with a friend.
The ones who gave the card away and spent time with the recipient—connecting with them and seeing the impact of giving—felt happiest afterward.
Of course, the pursuit of happiness isn’t all sunshine and rainbows
and mugs of tea and smiling children. Sometimes we need to tackle our
insecurities and weaknesses, and we can’t just ignore our draining jobs
and nagging relatives. But the practices here represent the other side
of the coin, the one we often neglect: seeing, appreciating, and
mobilizing the good.
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